Restoring the Patriarchy

By Tim and Steph Gordon

The leftist politics and culture of subversion share a common source which may surprise you. It will surprise you not in the sense of a total ambush, wherein one will later scratch one’s head and claim one had no clue whatsoever the surprise was coming. It will surprise you, rather, in the less shocking sense that the universal source of leftism proves something recognizably bad—a familiar foe—and yet more potent an evil than formerly cognized, as well as covertly informative of all the many branches of leftism. This common source will surprise you in its leftism-generating ubiquity alone.  

It is feminism, the Original Sin in the Garden and the cause of mankind’s fall from grace.

Feminism subverts our noblest institutions by pornographizing them—i.e. by placing a good or otherwise natural thing into an unnatural context in which it does not belong. Specifically, when a century ago, women were placed or allowed into positions of leadership—inside and outside the home—they came to occupy a context in which they do not belong and were never intended to exist.

Pope Pius X said this at the beginning of the 20th century, when feminism was ramping up: “It is a mistake to maintain that woman’s rights are the same as man’s. Women in war or Parliament are outside their proper sphere and their position there would be the desperation & ruin of society. Woman, created as man’s companion, must so remain...always under his power.”

Literally, the many fields of leftism all thrived by the household revolution (it engendered) which deliberately placed women outside the home and into positions of pseudo-leadership—which included a domestic pseudo-leadership position: matriarch, a mother who supplants the father as leader. Leftism thrived from this psychological operation economically, socially, governmentally, and infrastructurally. Modern woman became a supplanter, by and large. Her supplantation of her husband in each of these domains involved not only her spurious elevation, but also his specious demotion, of course. The power of office is, after all, a zero-sum game.

And what do even the most risk-averse normie conservatives call such a situation—when a woman (or a man) puts on the costume and the mien of a man (or a woman) and attempts to convince the world that her (or his) behaviors, functions, and operations are those of a man (or a woman)?

With a single voice, the most militantly insipid conservative normies all rush to answer: “this is transgenderism, of course!  We won’t stand for a woman pretending to be a man, or vice versa!”

But feminism is transgenderism in its most dangerous and widespread form. And so these normies do not oppose transgenderism at all! Telling your wife the lie that she’s the boss turns out to be functional gender dysphoria, as opposed to the ontological gender dysphoria disclaimed and repudiated by the normies, above. Bear in mind, these normie men in the suburbs will non-ironically tender their condemnation of gender dysphoria in between daily, ritual affirmations of their wives as the “real” bosses of the home (“lemme go ask the boss”) and weekly expressions of their feminist normie credo, “happy wife, happy life.” In short, conservatives cannot repudiate transgenderism until they repudiate feminism and re-embrace the patriarchy.

Patriarchy, the operative mode of Christianity, is morally inevitable—even in a secularizing nation. It means “power to fathers” and signals the only veritable death of our widespread gender dysphoria, a dystopia in which wives wear pants, abandon their homes and children, and pretend they are our bosses rather than our helpmeets.

As close friends and fellow-travelers of Quite Frankly, we’d like to list and briefly describe each of the specific ways we have attempted to reconstruct and bulwark the patriarchy. Among our numerous videos (available on the Timothy Gordon YouTube channel) that discuss household patriarchy, there are also books designed for men and women on how to implement household leadership. Additionally, the channel features two marriage workshop lecture series: one for women called the Ask Your Husband Book Club, and another designed for couples to complete together, called the One Flesh Marriage Workshop. Also, the books The Case for Patriarchy, by Tim, and Ask Your Husband, by Steph, provide insights on the marriage from the perspective of history, Scripture, and Christian Tradition. Available on our website is a new book, Leave and Cleave: Nine Marriage Prep Secrets Once Taught, Now Censored, which serves as a guidebook for couples interested in traditional household structure in an engaging way. The website also offers an intensive, two-on-two, three-month marriage coaching program for couples seeking personalized, hands-on instruction. For more information, we can be reached at TimothyJGordon@TimtothyJgordon.com.

Stephanie Gordon is a wife and mother, currently in her twentieth year of marriage. Her husband and best friend, Timothy, holds degrees in literature, history, philosophy, and law. Steph’s and Tim’s love story began when teenaged Steph saw Tim playing music in a rock and roll nightclub in Deep Ellum, Texas, in 2001. At the time, Steph had just graduated high school and Tim was in between his sophomore and junior year of college. They immediately became best friends and two years later began dating (at the time, they were each dating other people). After finishing his undergrad degree and then a speedy Master’s degree, Steph and Tim married, and he followed his passion (together with his new wife) by studying graduate philosophy at Pontifical graduate universities in Rome, Italy, which is the most romantic place for a young newlywed couple to begin their life. Upon return to the States, Tim then taught philosophy, theology, and logic at colleges and high schools in Southern California. His quest for understanding then led him to law school, where he specialized in Constitutional law.  Currently, Tim enjoys life as an author and podcaster in Mississippi with Steph and their bustling household of seven children (six daughters and one son). Their life together is filled with the prospects of rebutting the demonic culture and politics of our day, ceaseless adventure and romance, education of their many children, and the other daily joys of raising a large Catholic family rooted in Tradition and love for Christ.